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Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Missing In Action

In February I began gutting our home in preparation for major renovations. As I had no one to help me, this took rather a long time and left me tired.  Work crews began arriving in late March and the first floor is now complete. This had to be done so that The Hubby can easily get from one room to another. Work continues outside where steps are being built that will accommodate The Hubby's needs.  

All of this means that I am never moving home. The Hubby simply cannot withstand a move and it is time for me to accept that. Further, The Spawn has met the man she's to marry and will wed next year.  In a few years I hope to become a grandmother and I want to be on hand to help and to watch them grow. However, the realization that I am now an immigrant is not easy. Plagued by feelings of guilt and shame, I try to make peace with myself each day.

That's quite enough for one day so I'll leave you with my last submission to the Painting Challenge. 'Da Hokey Pokey Tribe.






As it is now time to begin working in the gardens, it is unlikely that I will blog on a regular basis until June or July. I have been out and about a bit reading and commenting over the last week or so. If I have missed your post, I apologise. I plan on dropping in. reading blogs and staying in touch over the next few months. 















82 comments:

  1. Sorry you won't be able to move again. Glad the renovations are finally done. And congratulations to your daughter.
    Figures look great. Dig the vibrant colors.
    Glad you popped back in! Hope you found the post where I featured you last month.

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    1. No, I didn't see it. I've popped in a couple of times a week but only have time to read one or two per day. Knowing you, it was a very kind post so I will thank you for it.

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  3. This was my favourite piece of yours and makes me smile when I look at it. I understand about the blogging, because as you know I've gone through the same hole for a little while now. The good thing is it will pass and you'll be back on track. As to the immigrant thing I wouldn't worry as you always take your country with you wherever you happen to be.

    Christopher

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    1. It's tough being away for so long as one wonders if people still even have your blog on their blogroll. However the gaming community is so nice, we tend to show up no matter how long someone has been away.

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  4. Congrats for these wonderful, colored minis, and for your daughter!

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  5. Wow Anne your painting has progressed leaps and bounds, looking good. I'm in the middle of renovations too so have been off the brushes and blogger for months, I find I'm enjoying both far more than when I went into hibernation, though the painting is a struggle trying to remember all the old tricks. Once again great job.

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    1. Renovating is so disruptive isn't it. And there's always those unexpected problems you weren't aware of. For us it was the electrics. Nearly all the wiring had to be redone and it's a miracle the house hasn't burned down.

      I've not painted in two months and I'm afraid I've lost my chops. I've got to pick up a a simple figure and get back to it.

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  6. Hmm, this may be my second comment, my last went the way of the doo doo bird.

    I'm saddened you're unable to return home but I'm glad you made the renovations for hubby. I hope that means less physical strain on you. Happy for your daughter too. Best wishes until we meet again.

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    1. See you're a woman and immediately got that this would create less of a strain on me. That was also a part of it. Taking care of everything myself is just too hard on my body and I'm not getting any younger.

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    2. You've been through the trenches, Anne. You deserve to have that remodeling done to make it a bit easier…even for just a bit. I also forgot to say, I'm glad you're still (I almost put writing) painting. I know it's something you love. That and gardening. Oh - and those flowers that appeared out of nowhere last year are back again. Yay! Can't wait for them to bloom.

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    3. We've both been through hell and back again. Right now I'm painting the porch and staining the wood on new steps. Not nearly as much fun as painting mini's.

      Glad to hear those plants came back.Those surprises are like little gifts. I had a Columbine show up out of nowhere two years ago and it's now really big. I'm guessing a bird pooped the seed onto the soil. I got daffodils once when a squirrel dug them out of someone else's yard and put them in mine.

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  7. Hoi Anne, that all sounds heavy indeed. That said: try to focus on the happy things as well!

    Cheers Sander

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    1. Most of the time I am happier than I've been since I moved here. It's Spring and I'm out of doors all day AND I had an 8 foot tall privacy fence installed in my backyard. I love sitting out there and at night it's beautiful.

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  8. Those guys were a fun entry Anne and one of my favourites of the Challenge :)

    It's a shame you won't be able to move, but if it means that you get to be the glamorous-but-bad-influence granny that will make up for it :)

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    1. I know it will be a few years but I am now one step closer to being a gran. Also The Spawn and The Future Son In Law own a home that's about ten minutes from ours. So ya I'll have those wee ones nearly every day and will spoil them rotten. Most likely I'll buy them drums when they turn three years old just so they can drive their parents bonkers.

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  9. Too bad you will have to stay away from home. Hopefully the coming summer will give some respite from all the renovating etc.

    Loved that entry. Definately one of the best if not the best in the challenge overall. Great minis and an amazing paintjob on them!

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    1. The indoor work is done so I've my kitchen back and that's a help. It will take about a month to finish the outside and then I'll have my normal routine back.

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  10. Wasn't it John Lennon who said that "Life is what happens while we're making other plans"? Life's unexpected twists and turns can be hard to accept. Hugs to you, Anne.

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    1. He did say that and he was right. These last four years have been a perfect example of that. One minute The Hubby was healthy, strong and happy. The next minute it was all over. We never thought our lives would end of like this, but we've managed to soldier on.

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  11. Hi, Anne: Excellent work on these trouble makers.

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  12. haha you are just like your hokey pokey tribe in blogland, you do the hokey pokey and show up here and there lol

    Sometimes life sure leads us down paths we never thought we'd go. Grandma Anne, the cat can work with that at his show lol

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    1. I've tried to get to most people and I know I've missed some. But I didn't miss the Cat. Probably should have done though :)

      Ya you can call me granny when the time comes and I won't mind. Heck, she's not even married and I've name picked out for babies that don't even exist yet.

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    2. lmao no pressure from you for them to have kids or anything. Granny goes well with fanny lol

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    3. When you get to my age, everything starts heading south. My arse is slowly creeping down to my knees. I'm not even going to mention where my boobs are headed. Let's just say gravity works.

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  13. Anne
    Sounds like you've accomplished a lot. You've earned your hokey pokey dance and your poking about the garden
    Cheers, PD

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    1. I've been lucky with finding guys to do great work and not take advantage of me financially. Everything they've done has been done well and I'm satisfied with it. Next year I'll deal with the upstairs, but for now I'm finished.

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  14. Oh, it brings tears to my eyes that you will not be able to move home... I know how much we dreamed of it and hoped for it!
    Why didn't you buy a new house, dear? I thought you hated this one. Not enough money, or something else? I thought you might sell and buy something closer to hubby's parents or to the city and the hospital?
    I wish nothing more than for dear Spawn to give you a grandkid, dear. It would be such an island of happiness and joy in the ocean of sadness and sorrow we've been drowning in.
    Also, if me was you, I'd try to turn that lil' neighbour's boy around. You can't let them turn him into a hillbilly monster that they are. Give him something he can look up to, dear. Give him a chocolate, even when he says bad things, and he will become better than his parents.

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    1. We didn't sale as the market here is so soft, no one is buying. Just down the street from me is a beautiful home with 5 Italian marble fire places, an in-ground swimming pool, and a suite of flats in the back. That house is worth well over a million dollars. After it sat on the market for two years, they listed it for $139,000.00 and it sill didn't sale. All the factories here have closed and on my street alone there are two houses up for auction. One across the street (three stories) just went for only $5,000.00. I'd lose my arse on this one if I tried to sell it.

      I know that poor little boy is just the product of what he hears in his home. Prior to him telling me all about how he and his family hated me, I would talk with him about comic books and dinosaurs. I have a big bag of toy dinosaurs and I gave him two to play with. And then BAM, "And here's what I hate about you" came out of his mouth. If I gave him chocolate, his parents would probably put poison in it and then call the coppers and I'd be arrested for attempted murder :0)

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    2. And I'm guessing nobody wants to live surrounded with racists.... and hillbillies :( You are probably the only profound mind there..... Do you have any normal people living around?

      I remember that you had lovely talks with him, dear, that is why I asked. I felt there might be a foundation for you to build your influence upon.
      Oh, how I hate bad neighbours.... mine likes to hammer and saw things at 5am..... Utter bollocks....

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    3. This is hillbilly central dahlink and normal just isn't in that particular gene pool. The girls bet pregnant at 15, don't know who the daddy is and sell meth out of the back of the pram when the babies are born. The men are drunks and beat their women whilst listening to country music and drink Pabst Blue Ribbon beer. Thank God the Spawn found a Native American who grew up isolated living in the woods.

      At 5:00 a.m. for Christ's sake what's the matter with this man. Who does such a thing. Does he have an American accent? Perhaps he emigrated to Serbia from my neighborhood.

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    4. our future son in law is Native American? Oh, such delight! I have a year long friend who is Native American, she works as a history expert in their reserves.
      No accent, methinks he grunts instead of speaking, which might mean he does have American blood... the grizzly bear one.... He keeps rotten car parts and windshields on the roof of his shed which is right under my window... imagine the view..... and he even keeps parrots there too.... vile, smelly, loud beasts.... Which is why I trained my tomcat to leave poop piles around his yard :)

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    5. He's part Shawnee and part Sioux. His father is a well known Native American artist. He did the artwork for the postage stamps honouring the Native peoples. Recently his work appeared in a Geico commercial. The Tasmanian Devil whirled around and broke a bunch of plates with paintings of birds. Those plates are on of his series of works.

      Ya, he must be related to my neighbor as they've a broken car, a broken truck, a borken caravan, stacks of old tyres, rotted out wood and a bunch of mouldy mattresses in the backyard. Thank God for my fence. I no longer have to see it. Good for your kitties, leaving poop in his yard. They will defend you against all ebil dahlink :0)

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    6. dahlink, just imagine if you could take over Amurica with your Irish troops and your future grandkid's Native army! And settle order there finally :)

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    7. If we did, there'd be drinking and dancing all the day long. We could open a new franchise dahlink. "Shenanigans Native Pub" would spread like whiskey and wild fire across the globe :)

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    8. I do love me inter-cultural and mixed marriages, which is why me is still waiting for you to marry me off to somebody very much Irish, dear :)

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    9. It does make things more interesting. If you married an Irish, you'd get an EU passport. Then you could travel all over Western Europe with ease. You'd also find out why it's a damn good thing you guys didn't join the EU. What a bum deal that was.

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    10. I'd much prefer we were in EU because it brings laws, regulations and discipline, which we have not. Life is still better under EU standards than under no standards...
      Forgot to ask you what happened to your beekeeping idea?

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    11. I'm not allowed to keep bees within town limits. The only way to do it would be to hook up with another beekeeper and start my own hive at his property. The closest one to me is a three hour drive. So no bees for me :(

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    12. oh, holy poop, I was looking forward to mighty armies of bees and wasps which we could use against the neighbours, dear....

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  15. Congrats to you and the Spawn... I'm in the joyful hell they call wedding planning my self (for my own wedding) so you have my sympathy and good wishes. Love the Hockey pockey tribe

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    1. I feel your pain Adam. The Spawn and her best girlfriend are both getting married next year. They've wedding fever and their fiance's are drowning in a sea of estrogen. Poor guys, I hope they don't decide to have an actual opinion on how these weddings are going to be done.

      Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials!!

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    2. My only real struggle is with my Fiancee's commitment issues.. as in her unwillingness decide on a venue. Once we have that I feel like all will go smoothly... that is probably a foolish belief on my part but hope keeps us going :)

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    3. Smoothly you say? Oh you silly man, you. Once the venue is decided upon, that's when things get REALLY bad. The best thing you can do is say nothing but "yes dear" from now until the vows are spoken. I shall keep you in my prayers!

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  16. At least all that hard work put into renovating will pay off in the end. I'm sure it'll makes things easier for you too.

    Sorry to hear you won't be able to move back to your homeland.

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    1. I really had to cut things to the bone as I just can't take care of The Hubby, the yard and this huge house on my own. I gave away every piece of our furniture , all our china, but four pieces, all our silver cutlery, all our paintings and every knick knack in the place. I'm not buying any furniture and am leaving the house bare except for one samll table for the children to set up the laptops and a Deacons Chair that sits in the entry hall. I've no time to move furniture to clean behind it and no time to dust. Also when The Hubby falls down, he can get wedged between things and I've to hurry up and haul things out of the way before the EMT's arrive. I'm just too damn old for it all Dan.

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  17. Well that all sounds positive and once the disruption is over you will have your very own palace! O'Leery Mansion. It has a nice ring to it. So all good news as far as I can tell.

    Onto the figures. Well like most (if not everyone) I am rather taken with these. They do remind me of the Pineapple tribe from EMP miniatures ( here's a link... http://www.wargamesemporium.com/new/oscommerce-2.2rc2a/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=719_722&products_id=8865&osCsid=662bdfea0e75407d8ef790f7bf8ea772 ) You'll have to cut and paste that I suspect. Glad you are keeping well and I hope you enjoy the garden.

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    1. This house was a disaster when we bought it. It's a huge Victorian, built in 1849. However all the intricately carved woodwork was in pristine condition and the old girl had good bones. She now looks like the lady she was intended to be and I find I'm quite charmed by her personality.

      I've a 8 foot privacy fence now and it's my favourite place in all the world. I've put loads of little fairy lights and lantern out back so at night it's magical.

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  18. I want to make sure you see my response:

    Anne: I know you have good intentions (actually, I know that you don't; I've seen the things you've been saying about me in other venues), but, honestly, you don't know what you're talking about.

    None of this is about the silly revenge rating Pat gave me. Do you see any response to that anywhere? Or to any of the ones he prompted his sister to leave? No...
    What you're missing is that -after- I didn't respond to his rating attack, he began harassing me across multiple platforms (Amazon, goodreads, my blog) and, THEN, wrote a post on IWM maligning me over the review I did of a book by someone not him. That post is still there, by the way, so feel free to go read it. It was only after that post that I felt I needed to respond because he accused me of a number of things that just weren't true.

    None of that is to mention the HUNDREDS of comments he's made on my blog that do nothing but call me names or various of commenters names. If you need verification, check with Arlee Bird. Pat has attacked him multiple times at this point. Actually, I could put all of those comments back onto my blog just so you could see what this is really all about, but it's hardly worth my time to put them back then take them down again.

    Next time, maybe, check your facts before you get involved.

    Feel free to remove it as you see fit.

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    1. I read it and replied. I've no need to delete your comment as it won't upset me or anyone else here.

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  19. Those are fabulous Anne! Beautifully vibrant, would have done well at ReaperCon.

    I know we chatted a bit about the decision to stay here. Definitely a hard one to make, but it sounds like yiu are mostly at peace with it. Feel free to lean on us whenever you need to.

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    1. Even if The Hubby could move, I can't leave the children behind. A State away is one thing, an ocean away is another thing. Life is hard for young people these days, jobs are hard to come by and the future is uncertain. We need to be nearby to help when needed. And there's the hope of grandchildren one day. Most likely five years or so, but one day I'll be a gran and the happiest woman on the planet.

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  20. Sounds like your home life has been quite busy of late. Great to see those marvelously painted figures again.

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    1. It's been quite an experience as I've never done anything on this scale this quickly. It's been worth it though as I now feel like this truly is a home.

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  21. Anne;

    Very nice to hear from you again; and I'm sorry home is not on the horizon, though I hope home you call here in the states ?... is shaping up nicely for you, hubby, the spawn, and the future spawnettes ! ♥♥ Weezer used to tell me things have a way of working out, though God Hisself may be the only one to know the why's and the what for's .... at the time. His strength to you all.....but now on to your mini's

    While I haven't followed your blog as long as everyone here, may I say the tribe.....KICK ASS !!! This is some of the best painting... I've seen....they are seriously flippin awesome....they compliment each other, their bases, the color choices...magnifique ~~ as the tabbies would say...984 paws UP....way kewl ♥♥♥

    nose kisses to kitty fang and for what it's worth, if you ever want to "unload" we're here for ya ♥

    laura

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    1. One of the things The Hubby and I say is that "God may have brought us here just so The Spawn could meet her right man" And if that's the case, it's worth it. From the time she was born I asked God for one thing-that she meet her right man early and go from my home to his home with nothing in between. No pain or scars from bad relationships and no abuse from bad men. And he gave me that. Spawnettes, I like that! I don't dare talk about the grandchildren I want to them, but I can plan for them on here and she won't know it. I may even start stocking up on nappies, onesies, booties and bibs :0)

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  22. Sounds a busy busy time?? Loved the Hokey Pokey Tribe!!

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    1. Busy doesn't even cover it. At the end of the day my knees are in so much pain, I've got to ice them down and elevate them. This has to stop as I need to get back to the brushes.

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  23. I go away for a while and now that I'm back I see your painting skills have really developed. Really great paint jobs on these figs Anne.

    I'm also conscious that I'm way behind on everybody's news. Renovations are stressful but moving house can be more so and if you are comfortable in the home you are in it makes sense to adapt it to your needs rather than look for somewhere else. And as long as you concentrate on the positive things happening in your life it makes the bad things that little bit easier to bear. Best wishes to you and hubby

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    1. Hey, welcome back! I haven't seen you in ages. I've gotten behind with people as well and am trying to play catch up. The nice thing about gamers and painters is that you can go off for a year and still be welcomed back and remembered.

      Thinkgs are pretty good now and I'm mostly very happy with life.

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  24. Hola Amiga
    Es bueno leerte otra vez y ver que coges los pinceles y a demás para pintar estas minis que te a quedado magnificas,a felicidades a tu hija y que todo salga bien,y mucho animo que estés donde estés siempre a un que sea duro hay que mirar para delante,y ya saves si te quieres desahogar y gritar por a qui nos tienes jaajajja,
    un saludo y un abrazo
    buena semana

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    1. Thank you my friend,

      It is good to be back and to see what all of you have been painting again. You've done some great work whilst I was away. I'll tell you what, If I don't get those grandbabies in the next five years, you'll all hear me venting.

      Slainte!

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  25. Those Tiki faced dudes...love em to bits I do. So very cool.
    Renovations is a huge hassle but usually worth the short inconvenience in the end.
    Being an immigrant myself (now naturalised) it's an interesting experience that's for sure.
    Cheers from here.

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    1. These guys would look good sitting on your bar. Speaking of which, you inspired me to have a patio in my backyard. Now, I'm not doing it myself as it's way beyond me. I've those Citronella Tiki lights for when it's done and a station for my grill.

      I've duel citizenship from marrying The Hubby, but I don't feel like a citizen. Part of that is down to the small town I live in. They don't like foreigners, especially in their shops downtown. It's just me and the Mexican's hanging out on the fringe of society :0)

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  26. Good to see you back online Anne, the web has been less colourful without you. Fantastic painting and choice of colours, probably your best yet.

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  27. The figures are really good. Unfortunately there's not much advice or comfort I could really offer you about not being able to move again. So instead I will just focus on the positives and offer congratulations to the spawn.

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    1. Life tends to be a mixture of good and bad but as long as the good outweighs the bad it can be gotten through. And right now the good is winning!

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  28. It'll be nice to see whatever you post whenever you post it!

    Real life happens to all of us and there's not a damn thing you can do about it. Hope your other-half is managing well, and let's face it, they like the Irish there...wouldn't want to be an immigrant here (UK) at the moment!

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    1. Now that's one heated topic in the UK these days. The arguments are vehement and whichever side you stand on, you're going to get flack for it. America does allow more Irish to come in and become citizens than they do most other countries. And they do like us in the big cities. I'm out in the back of beyond where they won't allow African Americans to buy a home in their town. Most people here don't know the difference between Northern Ireland and the Republic of Ireland. Some of them think I carry a gun, make pipe bobs and am in the IRA. I know it's stupid, but what are gonna do.

      You're not a troll and we all know it.

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  29. Hey there, and welcome back! Even if it's just to pop in and say hi. Congratulations on the spawn's upcoming nuptials, and cheers to those lovely Hokey Pokey tribesmen. Home is where our loved ones are. The land underneath you is only a technicality.

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  30. Anne! I was wondering if you'd made the move back. I'm sorry it wasn't in the cards for you. If only you weren't in rural red neck country, I think you'd find it so much better. I hope your painting brings you piece of mind like it does for me.

    I love your tribe! Such bright, saturated colors (I've been reading, lol!). They're adorable!

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  31. They look Really excellent Anne. Chapeau!!

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  32. Where in the US did you end up? You must come to Colorado and visit sometime. 😊

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