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Monday, February 6, 2012

Wargamers Are True Gentleman

In the post-feminist world of today, it is a rare thing to be treated like a lady.  It seems that when we women got rid of the bad, we threw a great deal of the good out along with it. Many women today are offended when a man holds a door open for us, when a man pulls out our chair for us when we go to dinner or when a man stands when we enter a room.  The rhetoric is that these things demean us in some way. I disagree. These things elevate us as women. 

I had a career and I'm bawdy, yet I still like being treated like a lady. I like it when a man behaves as a gentleman. Yes I'm very out of touch with todays "modern" woman. But I don't care.

I follow quite a few wargaming blogs here. And across the board, these men treat me like a lady when I visit their pages. Many of them put the words "We'd like to welcome Anne O'Leary to our page" on their blog after I follow them. And then they add me to their blog roll.  They have held the door open for me, they have pulled out the chair and they have stood when I enter the room. They behave as gentleman do. And I am grateful.

Last week Ray from Don't Throw A 1 made a flag for me and for a friend of mine The Happy Whisk. We agree that we are both lucky women. This is my flag.

This flag represents a couple of things about me. I'm married to an American, I'm Irish and I'm a drummer. Ray managed to get all of that into one flag and I love it.  Now, what does a woman who has her own flag need?

That's right, she needs a castle.  I painted this topsy-turvy castle using ArtRage. My Corel Painter free trial expired, so I downloaded a free trial version of ArtRage and used it.

Here is a crop-out to show detail. This painting took 4 days to complete and it was fun to do. After I finished it I thought to myself "Anne, you need to get an award for supporting wargame pages."  Well Jesus Christ, I have a flag and I own a castle, why don't I just make an award and give it to myself. So I did.

I've just given myself the "Wargame Fangirl Award".  I combined my castle with Rays flag to make this badge and it's going to sit up at the top of my page from now on with my translator underneath it.

Now to all you wargamers out there. My son just moved out so that means I have space, space to paint figures in. I'm trying to decide what figures I want to start with and I'm leaning towards a horse regiment. It's going to take me a little time because this stuff is expensive and these doctors in the States expect me to pay them (shocking, I know). So I may need advice from some of you. If any of you know of a good page with tutorials, let me know.

Thank you Ray!!

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  1. I helped him with this, you wanted to see what was on the flag originally!

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    1. Ignore him, he's only sore coz he lost the game yesterday!

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    2. He claims it was a draw!! That man, he drives me to distraction. He steals biscuits and I can't get two words out of him edgewise!! He owes us Ray, he owes us....

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    3. Hahahaahaha. Good stuff, as always.

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  2. Angry, I think Ray's going to have something to say about that!! He says you eat his biscuits at work too!

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  3. Congrats on finding the time & space for painting minis!

    Here's one of the best horse-tutorials I've seen: simple technique for really great results, explained very well: http://mageknightkevin.blogspot.com/2011/11/tutorial-painting-horses-28mm.html

    Nice thing about painted horses, doesn't matter what century or region of the world they're from, or if they're even sci-fi or fantasy, they're not going to change much. What type of minis will you be doing?

    Happy to help if you have any questions.

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  4. That's one of the things I still need to work out. I need to figure out what size I'm going to do, what period of history, what manufacturer to buy from and what supplies I'll need. I also have to find out what type of paint I'm going to need. Then figure out how much it will cost. I'm giving myself 2 months to do research before I buy anything. Thanks for the link, I'm going to follow that blog now.

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  5. Its great to see that chivalry is still alive. At least, some kind gentlemen are out there contributing so I don't have to.
    Oh, and I love the flag but I think I wouldn't even go near your castle. It looks too messed up!

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    1. It's a topsy-turvy castle, a whimsy if you will. It's my imaginary fortress. It keeps out politicians, celebrities, salesman, lawyers and zombies.

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    2. Ah! Refuge from those arsemonkeys?(Hope you dont mind me borrowing one of your swear words here, its kind of grown on me.) I'd stake my life anywhere to get away from them!

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    3. Borrow away!! They're good ones, we Irish excel at cussing.!

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  6. That is a pretty awesome flag. I'd like to think I'm still a gentleman but I retain that if chivalry is dead, it is women that killed it. They do seem to have thrown out the good as well as the bad.

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    1. The women's movement obliterated it and we gave up freedoms that we shouldn't have given up. Like the freedom to stay home and raise our children without being criticized. I've been stomping on the terra a lot longer than you might think and I've watched this unfold. We burned more than just our bras in the 60's, we burned our society.

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    2. That's a really good point. It seems to me a lot of the time is that it's really just women criticizing other women. I've heard stay at home moms belittling working mothers for not caring about their kids, and working mothers belittling SAHMs for being lazy women that contribute nothing to society. Why can't we just let people make the best choice for their situation without judging?

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    3. Initially that was the point of the women's movement. Freedom of choice, but it seems as if we can only get behind women who make the choices we think they should make. Men can put differences aside and agree on something over a beer, women can't do that. We love criticizing each other too much. I've been guilty of it myself!

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  7. Nice castle. If I had a castle, it'd be like an Escher one with stairs that don't go anywhere and guard caterpillars. It would confuse attackers, but might make ordering take aways a little difficult.

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    1. I din't think about take aways. How will I get my curry now!!

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  8. A well deserved award indeed my lady!

    My husband buys his figures online and then has to do all this wacky stuff to it go get rid of the resin. Last I recall, he soaked it in Simple Green then he was able to do the painting...the part he dreads the most. I'll ask him for some painting advice if you'd like.

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    1. Thank you, I'd love that. I've been reading about Simple Green on quite a few pages. My problem is I want everything I see. There are kits for beginners like me, so I may do one simple thing first before I do a full regiment. A fantasy piece would be very forgiving I think.

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    2. There was a time I would have had suggestions but, alas, my gaming info is woefully behind the times. I'm hoping that my son will get my granddaughter into rpg's and maybe by some miracle we'll all still live close enough to one another to enjoy these things together. The gaming. The collecting of miniatures. The painting of same.

      It could happen . . .

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    3. I'll get at least one regiment painted. I've promised myself that. But I'll never have anyone to play a game with. I love painting so that will have to be good enough for right now!

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  9. I love ArtRage! Ha ha I am sure your son is delighted that you have already plans for his room?

    I have the say Irish men are still Gentlemen...well the ones I have met so far!

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    1. I was initially depressed when he moved out and then I decided to look at the advantages in the situation.

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  10. you play drums? I didn't know that! So wonderfully amusing :)
    And so nice from the guys to welcome you in such a nice way, I suggest you make figures of Elven armies from LOTR :)

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    1. Been playing since I was a kid. I've done a few posts about it. I've got a custom made Ludwig with a 26 inch bass, a 14 inch tom-tom and 16 & 18 floor toms. My kit is built specifically to project over an orchestra. I'm very, very loud!! I've looked at the LOTR figures. I'm still in the dreaming phase of this adventure.

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  11. Love you castle, Anne! And I think it's great they they are treating you special. I totally agree about the door opening and such. I love that and appreciate it!

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    1. Simple kindness is a lost art these days. My Hubby always opens doors for me, if he didn't I wouldn't have married him!

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  12. Those women that don't like the door opening and stuff like that, tend to be a bit hmmm what's the word, snuck up? Holier than thou? (add some not so nice ones here..lol) Not all but many. Then some think you are too nice, I hate it..haha.

    That castle is wonderful, doesn't matter what program you use. Always turn out great pics. I could do a kiddie book around that pic easily..lol

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    1. I stuck it on the backburner and just now in popped in idea, curse my brain..lol...but still it take more pics. So backburner it must be.

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    2. I know about that backburner. Mine is full right now.

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  13. I agree with this Anne, I hate chicks who are all stuck up and feel that by being treated well they're being demeaned somehow, it's stupid. Cool castle as well!

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    1. Some women are going to hate me for this post! But I don't care, I'm older than all of them and am therefor wiser. One day I'll write a post about what I think of "free love" and being cheap and easy. Now that is demeaning to women.

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  14. i am all for treating ladies like ladies...perhaps it is just the way i was raised honestly...i really like your castle...pretty cool flag as well...so does this make you lady anne now that you have a flag and castle...should we bow when we enter...oh my i need to brush up on royal etiquette...smiles.

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    1. You treat your wife very well Brian. I've read the verses you write for her. She's a lucky woman. My Hubby teases me and calls me "The Queen of Ireland" It's the only sentence he can say with an Irish accent!

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  15. I doff my cap to such gentlemen that would treat a lady as they should. Good show, wargamers! That flag is a great gift and looks amazing on your castle. You've got some skill. I shall follow you, if it pleases.

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    1. I'd be honored to have you. Wargamers are polite, knowledgeable and fun!

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  16. The flag looks great flying high on that great castle of yours! What kind of periods in history do you like? And what kind of colours do you like, if you think on that, then we can point you in the right direction.

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    1. I'm going to take at least a month doing research, so I can make the right decisions. I will probably do one or two larger pieces, so I can get the feel for how the paint goes on the subject and so I can make some inexpensive mistakes.

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  17. It doesn't take long after putting up a castle and attaching a flag, that you start conquering other castles and putting up flags there. Can't wait to see what sort of mayhem follows that.

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    1. First I'll need troops! But really, I'm too lazy to mount an invasion.

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  18. Ah.. to be a gentleman. I won't go the whole 9 yards, but a lady will still receive her special treatment. I get looked at weird all the time. By the very women I treat.

    Giving yourself an award is awesome. This should be done more often.

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    1. I'm not talking about flowers or candy or romantic gestures either. Just the polite nice things, small things.

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  19. Hello, Anne.
    Your Castle is wonderful, a very nice place to take a break.

    About the horse regiment you want to paint, there are many periods (and very colourful) to choose. Ray has wonderful units in 15mm form the NYW and I think this period is one of the best to paint: nice, and not difficult uniforms (the Spanish horse from this period and in this scale are really beautiful).

    But in 28mm, of course!

    About the paints, the Vallejo range is very good and, I think, cheap (at least, is cheap here in Spain).

    Excuse me for this long comment, please.

    Best regards.

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    1. I've seen Ray's units and out of everything he's done, those are my favorites. I've read about the Vallejo paints, it seems a lot of you guys use them. Price will be an issue as I have no supplies at all. No problem with the long comment, I leave long comments all the time.

      Thank you so much

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  20. You know men that do those things for a woman??? The men here sit on their butts and expect the woman to run circles around them. WE hold the door open for THEM. Maybe I need to get out of NY and find real men ;) lol

    Your castle is great!! Love the details and the colors. And congrats on your award!! Even if you gave it to yourself. lol

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    1. I wouldn't put up with that shite, not for a minute!! My Hubby does all those things for me and he does it out of respect. I waited a long time for a good man and spent many a dateless weekend because I wouldn't settle for less.

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  21. There are so many simple things that show our appreciation for the fairer sex that how could someone not want to do them? And then to painting, such a simple yet addictive little hobby. Let me know when you are in need of some supplies. I do have contacts, real honest to goodness contacts in the industry, that will be able to help you with at least the paints (well the paints I like anyway). That is an excellent tutorial on horses, I'm going to be sure and bookmark it. And then you should check out my friend Scot's page: http://djokergaming.wordpress.com/

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    1. When I was at university, the girls would yell at the guys for opening a door for them. That was a great tutorial. He has a great page. I followed him. I'll go check out your friends page too. And when I'm ready to buy paints I'll come see you.

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  22. Lovely castle for a nice Lady!!!
    I always open doors and don't enter at first!... it could be a woman or a man: we are equal both of each sex!
    Just mean that be polite is for all humans...
    (I just pay special attention for Ladies!!!! )

    For the figures, well, take your time to choose them: paint what you like !
    I think that you MUST make a building with your castle ... and find the figures which are good for it!!!
    Medieval (don't matter with historical correct: the colours you choose are the correct colours!)
    Fantasy: like your Castle??
    Or just think that your castle could be a good background....

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    1. That's a great way to think about it Sam. I'm hoping to paint a fantasy forest next, so Medieval would be perfect. I could use my paintings as backdrops for my figures. I'd have more freedom with colors that way and I'd get my horses and the soldiers could be colorful or wear suits of armor. I like this idea Sam!!

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  23. Nice flag by Ray...but an even better castle to be flown from. It's good to be equal but it's also good to keep that little bit of chivalry alive...

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    1. I know, now if only the rest of the world would get on board with that sentiment, we could all be less bitchy.

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  24. This is SO GREAT! I love your flag. That Sir Ray is really something special. And ever so thoughtful to include the things we love, on our flags.

    Two lucky chicks, that's us.

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    1. He is a sweet one, Ray is. And I find it unlikely that either one of us will be willing to share him with other women either!!

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  25. Insult Ireland? Why would I insult the Great Land of the Faeries!?!
    I like it when a man shows signs of chivalry. Feminism is about equality. I treat my fellow man, and woman, with respect. I would like reciprocation.

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  26. I'm kind of surprised myself just how many war gaming blogs there are. With their wonderfully painted figures. Too bad I suck hard at painting.

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  27. Well, it depends on the situation really. If the woman wants to be treated like one, then I think, hell, why not?

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  28. @Nellie, Sadly we're out of Faeries, but we do have quite a few famous poets and writers in Ireland. And it's no insult to us at all that you don't know that.

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  29. Start with The Fellowship of the Ring, then some elves and Ents, followed by some orcs and Uruk-Hai, and chase it with some Oliphaunts. Then, Baradur and Orthanc and Minas Tirith, followed by Mount Doom and the Misty Mountains. Round it out with The Shire. Go.

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  30. I've looked at all those. They are so expensive!!! I love LOTR, but I just can't come up with that kind of dosh right now.

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  31. I agree...chivalry died a long time ago. I have always tried to treat women with respect and offer kind gestures and they just look at me like "What the hell are you doing?"

    Women are not the beautiful creatures they once were. Bring back the days when women appreciate a kind gesture and not think of it as just an attempt to get into their panties!

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    1. But, if we get in their panties in the process, well, SCORE! :-)

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    2. @Workingdan, I know, this is what I'm sayin'. We women really screwed the pooch on this one didn't we.

      @AL you bad, bad man!!

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  32. My ex-girlfriend doesn't like to be served. She wants to be the one doing the serving. So everytime I try to help her out with the chores, she refuses and finishes the job all by herself.

    Also, you gave yourself an award?! I never thought that kind of thing was possible but you did it. Now I'm feeling kinda jelly, I wish I thought of that idea first.

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    1. My Hubby would never do house chores!! You would do house chores? Where do you live and how do I get there?!

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  33. It's true, where's the chivalry?

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    1. Women,s lib killed it. And notice that most of the women that usually comment on my page aren't commenting on this post? I've been ostracized for speaking the truth!!

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  34. I don't get offended when a man opens a door for me, pulls out a chair for me, or stands when I enter a room.
    But, I DO keep an eye on him.
    And look to see if I'm in the wrong place.

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    1. If he's admiring the cut of your jib Al, you're in the wrong place!

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  35. You know I'm a headstrong, independent woman, but any man will earn bonus points from me for being a gentleman. I was born and raised in the Southern US, so I believe in good manners. Love your castle, btw. The flag totally tops it off ;-). Topaz and I send you and Toki much love and purrs.

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    1. I know, you guys hold yourselves to a high standard down South. I enjoyed talking with you last night!!! Love back to you petal, from me and Toki
      xoxoxo

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